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Bullying has just become of the most underrated but enduring problems today. Kids & Teenagers use the mobiles and the net and because there's the whole world of fun using these gadgets, it's time to stop the Bully Panic. As per the recent Survey by Daniel Peterson, an associate professor at the Rosalind Franklin University of Medicine and Science in North Chicago, being bullied can challenge the survival of new nerve cells in the brain and may even lead to depression. Stress kills young nerve cells and this may scar children's brain for life.

Well, here's an article on Bullying - a menace from my book and I hope the tips may help somewhere. Mobile bullying is on a rise as well as the text bullying. I have yet to pen down on this but you may as well surf the NCH  site for more details on this.

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Bullying has just become of the most underrated but enduring problems today. Kids & Teenagers use the mobiles and the net and because there's the whole world of fun using these gadgets, it's time to stop the Bully Panic. The cases rise to shoot up and as the NCH survey speaks, one in five young people are bullied by mobiles! Mobile Phones are great as you can chat n keep in touch with friends with sms, listen to music and have fun with ringtones, photos and video clips. With PCs checking in emails, receive photos, etc. The real problem lies is the security that it lapses. The NCH talks about the survey of UK children between 11-19 years age but the problem persist everywhere round the world as kids and teens are tempted to use the mobile and PCs, without the knowledge of their parents who allow them freedom. There are also cases of Bully rise in India and no proper guidance by moms or teachers is provided as they seem to lack mobile or PC using awareness. 
It's Navratri time in Oct/nov, with late night Garba Dance outside in farms, clubs, party plots and mom would simply think that I can trace my teenage girl by calling her up on mobile and believe she got the right answer where she is when the real fact is she lies. The dating culture is still far away in India and as a result, its lies and lies create more problems. The need of the hour is to provide proper guidance before use of such gadgets and let the child know about the consequences of its negative use. Bullying is  a sin when you harm someone and getting bullied and keeping quiet is a crime you allow to tear you apart - It's need to get educated and be aware to prevent Bully, either way! Take Care.....The world is changing!!!

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Are you being Bullied in School???

Bullying? Every school has kids who tease, taunt, shove up and beat other kids for no reason at all. Ignored, exulted sort of indirect bullying is worst than a physical assault too that kids face at School or just about anywhere! Bullying has just become of the most underrated but enduring problems in schools today. The cases rise to shoot up and as the survey speaks, it has been a challenging task for the mentors to instill the values of human relationships. Kids have jumped up to outburst and vent their own superiority, ego, boldness and attitudinal behavior that it has become a part of their living to let down someone without knowing the consequences of the impressions that leave on the tender minds of kids. Who is to blame? Certainly not the kids! It’s the present generation responsible solely -  parental/teachers/adult attitude that fail to instill moral values to the kids. Psychologists have found that bullies are often raised by parents who do not teach them how to negotiate or share. These parents/mentors typically resort to harsh and arbitrary physical punishment that reflects their own moods more than anything else. After many early lessons in erratic parental attacks, a bully misreads the actions of others. When a youngster accidentally bumps into a bully in the lunch line at school for instance, the bully will mistake it for an attack and start a fight. Bully never learns the value of sharing or cooperation, getting along with others is not a priority.

Teasing is however, a normal part of human relationships. It can be fun and a good way to cope with minor conflicts. But there always is a fine line between playful and hurtful teasing. Close encounters with kids and dinnertime conversations are best ways to navigate experiences. Recognizing degrees of teasing and learning to cope with hurtful teasing are important life skills a child needs to learn. Often bullies become more unhappy and aggressive with age. When a bully attacks kids, they often feel ashamed and refrain from talking about it. Guide the kids, beware, take care and share the feelings,  the Kids Freesouls way:

Communication bridge

Bridge the communication with a Bully. Children may have strong feelings about being a victim of being teased. Its hard to talk, cool down and vent the bubbled anger within of humiliation. Talk to the kid. Speak words of love and ask what happened. Listen respectfully to the kid and find out events and interactions. This is a supporting way a child would expect. Being a good listener prompts for wise advice later.

Be Sympathetic

Instead of blaming or shouting, be sympathetic, Feel how awful it must have been to be bullied. Acknowledging the child’s feeling without your own assumptions is a good way to help kids speak safe talking to you about a difficult and embarrassing situation he faced.

Share experiences

Memories never fade and so, narrate your own experiences ‘when I was a kid….Hearing that you had a difficult embarrassing situation when you were a kid gives a child a relief.   The left alone feeling is overcome. The embarrassed situation is overcome gradually that he alone isn’t a victim. Kids do love stories and fantasy dives them into imagination too.

Jumpstart Action

A bully is embarrassed, shameful. Jump-start to action. Find ways as to what could be done to not stand to face such situation again. Engage the bullied kid in problem solving situation, trying to understand his own experience. Such problem solving situations makes them competent and helps them build important skills.

Spread Sunshine

Its mostly people who tease are most unhappy and aggressive. Hard to believe but the bully faces the vented frustration. So, make the child begin to understand that kids who tease may have problems themselves and are less than all-powerful. Make the kid loving and considerate of other kids situations to reduce the hurt pain of being bullied.

Stand By

Some kids prefer parental intervention whereas some kids play a hide n seek mode. Offer help as an option. Some bullied kids are so terrified that would not talk to parents or teacher about what they are facing and hide their inner feelings. Just Stand by the kid and help out to the cause of bullying and being bullied, anyway.

Sensitiveness plays a major role in cases of Teasing. Some people take it to heart seriously whereas some kids brush off and let go remarks. How far is the kid sensitive? Can they laugh their way. Ask yourself the same too. Most people are occasional targets of hurt feelings. Be it a kid or parent. All depends on culture and family style of interaction. It’s the time to rejuvenate extra mileage of understanding patterns. Stop the TV shows that turn on, the games that involve nasty put downs and let build self esteem, self control, self disciplined  to remote those cells of wickedness creeping in the minds.

Children flower in a free atmosphere so let not live them in closed doors of ignorance but provide opportunities to experience and face challenges that encounter as they grow up. Its like a tip on iceberg:  ‘Be like a flower that perfumes the hand that crushes it’ and this love spreads sunshine in time to come.