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Children are Observers. Be an Influencer

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You are your child’s Hero – Mom or Dad – Kids are great followers and learn more with experience. God has fitted the world’s best and largest video tape recorder in your children’s mind. The way you treat – your parents, friends, wife or hubby, employees, customers..all is getting fully taped to be played back later. So, Empty your mind – throw your anxiety, worries, problems, guilt in your Mental Waste Basket – if you don’t eliminate, they go for maths – addition and subtraction of joys of life. It is important to empty mind than empty pockets later on !!!

There is no Influence as powerful as that of a mother. In my mind, there are no bad kids or what you label brats. They have their Emotions and impulses. They try to communicate their feelings and needs the only way they know how.

Children don’t need more things. The best toy a child needs is a parent to play with. Kids are more smarter and perspective than you realize. The Attitude you have as a parent, is what your kids will learn, more than what you tell them. They don’t remember what you teach them. They remember what you are.

“Kids are rude because they’re modeling rude behavior that they see around them. “Minding manners” is a foreign concept to many children. Etiquette and respect have gone out with bell-bottoms, but unlike those groovy jeans, it never made a comeback. Kids’ manners are arguably worse than ever.

According to Alex J. Packer, Ph.D., author of the book How Rude! The Teen Guide to Good Manners, Proper Behavior, and Not Grossing People Out , good manners must be taught, discussed, and practiced. Yet manners are no longer stressed in many homes and schools. “A lot of parents would rather be their child’s friend than their parent,” he says. “So kids get mixed messages and etiquette instruction falls by the wayside.”

In a survey Mr. Packer conducted with parents for his book, he asked: “Do you think children today are more polite, less polite, or the same as when you were growing up?” Of the 70 parents that responded, three-quarters answered that today’s children and adults are less polite than when they, themselves, were growing up.

Is Our Lack Of Manners Partly A Result Of New Technology? Poor digital manners are a cross-generational issue. There are countless adults displaying rude behavior while being engulfed in devices. There are classic examples of parents ignoring their children during meals while being on their devices, which sends a negative signal and sets a poor standard for expected tech etiquette.

Do as I say and not as I do says many moms. But “Do as I say, not as I do,” when it does take the form of inconsistency, can also undermine your intentions as a parent.

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The research points to three consequences of inconsistency.

1. First, the effects of your teaching are diminished when deeds and words are not in line. The more inconsistent you are, the more you will hear yourself saying, “How many times have I told you not to do that?”

2. Second, children can readily recognize inconsistencies, and they become more upset with their inconsistent parents than children who have parents who are more consistent. And although even small children can readily report on parental inconsistencies, they usually wait until adolescence to throw them in their parents’ faces.

3. Third, a parent who does one thing but expects or demands the opposite from a child is more likely to have discipline problems and more likely to punish a lot in the effort to overcome the influence of his or her own modeling.

4. Lastly, Never ever give FALSE HOPES. And, just say lies or even fulfil demands to make them do what you want.

The main idea to bear in mind here is that modeling—teaching by example—affects behavior far more than telling your children what to do (and far more than punishing them, too).

Adopt your Parenting style with care and this is the need of the hour. Children learn a lot by observing and they have the sharp observation skills.

Positive Parenting for Imperfect Parents – Adopt Strategy. Be Calm, Listen, Get Connected.

Sometimes we need a reminder to just STOP. NOTHING is more important than letting our children be who they are. We need to ask them why before simply saying NO. Do This and Don’t Do This often ends up to power struggles, yells, stubborn, rage flicks and Undisciplined Attitude. Discipline the child without shouting and spanking. Talk and be friendly. Divert the mind yet be firm or just let go at times if not much pricky.
Free range Parenting often works especially for smart kid and allow the child curiosity by giving freedom without going nuts with worry.

Transforming self and empowering children is need of the hour with Patience and mindful Parenting.

Whether a ? Child, hubby or at ? Workplace – it doesn’t cost a penny to Speak ? lovefully, true, kind and sweet words….

Be an influencer – be the Mom or a Dad; even Grandparents or a Teacher that you want your child to remember…. YOU DECIDE ! 

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