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Throw a stone into the pool and the circles widen and overlap. For the kids to learn and
thrive, they need the encouragement of all the circles that we live, home, community and
school. The center of the circle is home and
imagine, if there is stress? Stress syndrome
leads to depression making the person lost and forlorn! It is a killer disease with deadly
stings to bite the victim and that victim could be anyone – You, me or us. The wisdom
is to enlighten the mind as a mind in darkness is like hell. With the changing of time,
there has to be a change with the change and not change after the change. Students are caught up in the rat race of
educating themselves and procuring percentages, parents caught up in the struggle to
balance life and keep it on a steady pace to meet unlimited demands whereas the elderly
people are in the midst of passing through a phase of the generation gap who only need to
adjust with the times. Harmony is the key and unity is the solution added with zest of
love and understanding. There is a combination of external and internal factors for the
cause of stress and as a matter of fact, the figures are on a rise with multiple cases of
diabetes, thyroid, pressure problems, mental disorders, etc. It is the need of the hour to
relax, cool down, think and Act! Utility cannot be satisfied and human mind craves for
more and more. This is where you draw the line. Stop. Be Cautious. Your Life is in danger
and than, if one has a healthy mind and a healthy body, one can enjoy otherwise its no
use, afterall!
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Editor, Kidsfreesouls
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Today’s parent faces ‘Hard
Times’ with the changing generation trying to balance with the old and the new
rivering of Change! As parents, one may
struggle to cope with stresses ranging from money worries in this crisis time, job changes
to marital difficulties and illness. Educational problems of kids, demanding comforts and
facilities related to household and routine life, workplace problems and lot of other
things add up to stress. Talking with our
children about these problems may seem like an insurmountable hurdle, but keeping silent
may inadvertently cause them harm and inviting more problems in the longer run. Fulfilling
wish out of love for children is a one time affair but if the demands keep coming when one
cant cope up to make two ends meet, the real trouble shooting probs explode. If tackled
right from the start, things really do make a difference to remain united in a cozy
comfortable manner. Children are acutely
sensitive to the nuances of their parents' tension and well-being. Family silence around
stress can cause children to shoulder unnecessary burdens of shame and guilt. Talking with
them is an important first step toward helping them gain important coping skills. Even
when families are faced with the most overwhelming life stress, parents can help children
too.
Kids Free Soul tips may be
helpful here in such times of Stress and Depression:
Acknowledge the Problems. Face it. It's helpful for children, as well as adults, to
be reassured that what they are experiencing is real. Crisis has creeped in and learn to
live with times and make the family understand this stress. Live to the status and try
maintaining rather than go higher and crash someday. |
Conversations with children can range from
talking generally about the source of stress, such as worries about work, money, coping up
situations, daily needs, job prospects or business worries, etc. Depending on their ages,
such conversation may make the kids understand too. Younger children require a smooth way
of being aware without going into details of the stress problems. The way an adult member
behaves, the way the kids realize and adopt the present style of living. |
Children develop maturity in different manner
and the capacity to understand and grasp complicated issue varies. As they grow up, they
develop their own thinking and have their own solutions too. Leave the door open for
ongoing conversation. Some children have their own say on death, divorce and family
issues. |
Being preoccupied, irritable or over-worked is
a major parental issue, whether working or non working class. Minor clashes of word war,
major separations too may happen. Difference of opinions take place but as parents, be as
concrete and specific as possible about events they have witnessed. 'You've probably
noticed that Daddy and I were arguing last night,' or 'you've probably noticed that I've
been sad recently,' are good ways to begin and talk over the problems with children who
have their say. Too young kids need to be tackled and loved but teenagers are more alert
and sensitive to their parents’ problems and all that’s irritating to them
behind the back doors. |
Prevent unnecessary guilt by making sure
children know that your irritability or preoccupation is because of something going on in
your life, not because of them. This will reduce kids stress and parental stress too. |
Encourage relationships with other trusted
adults and friends. A favorite aunt, teacher, babysitter, or neighbor can be a great
source of comfort and support for a child whose parents are temporarily unavailable. |
Be open with children and sort assistance for
problems. In doing so, you model an important coping strategy, recognizing the need for
help and obtaining it from a wise counselor who may be young in age but ways ahead in
awareness. Literacy and awareness in some children make them act as wise advisors to
parents too. |
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